To Be a Man

Abhishek Paul
1 min readMar 5, 2019


There’s a lot being said about gender, with the implicit message being that men tend to behave quite badly much of the time (aka “toxic masculinity”). Amidst all the heated arguments (which I don’t think changes anyone’s mind), I found this little gem by Boston recorded 4 decades ago. I love their take on what’s become a hot button topic — it’s almost as if God knew we could all do with some encouragement today.

What does it take to be a man?
What does it take to see
It’s all heart and soul
A gentle hand
So easy to want and so hard to give
How can you be a man
’Til you see beyond the life you live?
Oh, what does it take to be a man?

We can be blind, but a man tries to see
It takes tenderness
For a man to be what he can be
And what does it mean
If you’re weak or strong?
A gentle feelin’
can make it right or make it wrong
What does it take to be a man?

The will to give and not receive
The strength to say what you believe
The heart to feel what others feel inside
To see what they can see

A man is somethin’ that’s real
It’s not what you are
It’s what you can feel
It can’t be too late
To look through the hate and see
I know that’s what a man can be

-“To be a Man” by Boston